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“I’m not gonna change!-Then you are never going to be happy!” Adult Version



How many times have you heard someone say: ” I’m not gonna change!”?  How many times have you said or thought it?  I can imagine that a lot of us have said this at one time or another and most likely in anger or when we feel that we have been attacked or judged.

The thing is:  No One wants to be criticized.

We are hurt that someone could point out a perceived flaw that we have.  And anyway why should we change for others? And that is the key…we should not change for others, BUT use the opportunity to have a reality check. See if there is something that we are doing,  that is keeping us stuck in a pattern of unhappiness. For instance, constant complaining about crap that happened at the dawn of time or belly aching about our current situation, being the constant victim, or plain just being a huge prick. Instead of saying: “Fuck-it, this is not gonna do!” and becoming proactive by dropping the: our Fairy Godmother has been “Wanding” us up the rear excuse all these years! ( and besides you can’t depend on that Witch anyway!)

Wake the Hell up! The world is NOT out to get you! There is no cosmic conspiracy to single you out and make your life a living hell! Shit happens-Bad Shit happens and it will continue to happen-that is a sure bet!  And guess what??? Everyone one suffers, some more than others, so in that sense life is fair! But…..

We can make an effort not to be the victim, we can make  an effort to change the way we handle situations, we can decide IF we are going to let something bother us. The choice is ours, we are not powerless!  But it is hard, the habits of years are hard to change and sometimes it can be scary! It’s scary doing new things, but it can also be very invigorating & empowering.

We have to stop standing in the way of our own happiness, we have to stop sabotaging ourselves!  The choice is ours-we should all choose to be happy. It is OK,  if your happiness looks different than mine. That is the beauty of the experience of Life, it is different for each of us!


I write these words as someone who has been in the depths of Hades, someone who has come to terms with the darkness that dwells within me, someone who realizes that it is a part of me.

So, I  pledge everyday that I will do whatever I can to increase my happiness. I will give my compassion freely and abundantly-and if I take you in my arms;  know that I won’t hold back!  Because that is one of the things that make me happy!  -SJ


What the @#*&! or I might just be too Opinionated to be a Buddhist!!


What would summer be without cooking outside, or watermelon or cold salads or  going barefoot (yes, in the grass but also across the hot asphalt!) or the smell of chlorine from the public pool or the sand in your bathing bottoms from spending a day at the beach or summer concert nights!!!!

Or how you can smell everything when riding your bike!

I love summer, I really do-hell I can find something to like about EVERY season, and yes there are some things I DON’T like about summer!

Like how SWEAT runs down my face and body even when I’m not moving!! How at the end of the day my clothes  are dripping wet!

Or how some guys think it is ok to wear SPEEDOS!  Guys if your not an Olympic swimmer than do us all a favor and don’t do the Speedo thing-pictures like that are hard, if damn near impossible to get out of ones head!!!

Or  how  frigging HOT my motorcycle seat gets when sitting in the sun!  Or having to WAIT at a red light on my mototcycle!

Or when your riding at the end of the day and  NO visor or sunglasses can keep the friggin’ sun out of your eyes!

Or having some NIMROD throw a cigarette out their car window!

Or finding the perfect spot at the evening Concert in the park only to realize that your sitting on the home of Fire Ants!!! OUCH!!

Or how some ladies forget what their feet look like in sandals-girls, that is why  pumice stones were invented!

Or Too much Body hair on women-for all you Bigfoots out there-that is why we have RAZORS and WAX and LASERS and DEPILATORY CREAMS etc. (this goes for some men too!)

Or how some people just should not ever, never, ever, EVER  wear daisy dukes! BBBRRRR!!! And this goes for guys too!! I am sure the Gay community will agree with me on this one! The 70’s are GONE guys, get with the times!

Or a BRAZILIAN WAX, don’t get me wrong I love the look and feel but  the PAIN! For the love of all things sacred-THE PAIN!!!! I’m thankful it only needs to be done once and it lasts all summer long!

Or B.O. !   People!!  if you live in a country with running water and soap,  you should not smell like STEAMED ONIONS!!! ( unless your French, we all KNOW the deal with them! French whore bath-hint-hint!)!!

I hope you all enjoy your summer, just do the rest of us a favor and try to follow “The Rules” !!