If you have ever spent the whole day riding you have surely seen it. The Sun as it rises is reddish-orange and then in the blink of an eye it is blazing white!
I noticed this recently on a ride and at first it was just an annoyance, I had to stop my journey to put on sunglasses so that I could even see. I must admit I was a little annoyed, I had to put on my flashers and pull over.Cars and trucks were whizzing by me and for a moment, that thought went thru my head, you know the thought, the one everyone has at one time or another-get hit by some vehicle that is magically drawn to anyone stopped on the shoulder!
Well fast forward to the end of the day-the Sun is starting to set and it is blazing white (it was a gorgeous day to ride) I noticed this and then as I pass a bank of trees and come out from under an overpass the setting Sun is instantly reddish-orange! And I am once again faced by the decision to change my eyewear-the difference this time though is that I am not riding solo. I am leading my Sisters home after a wonderful day of riding. Do I stop and change out my eyewear now or do I wait until it is safe to pull off the road? To be honest there was no question for me, I would lead my Sisters to a safe place for everyone to pull over!
And that is how it is in life for me-when it only affects me I will sometimes make decisions that are not always the safest, bestest or wisest. When it affects others, than I have to take the time and look at solutions from all sides and pick the best one for the good of the all. Does that mean I am “wishy-washy”? Should my Sisters never see me change my mind? I surely hope not ! We all have areas that are non-negotiable, as we get to know people, we kinda get an idea of where they stand on certain issues. Getting to that point can be difficult and straining, we many times still have our own interests in mind instead of the other person’s.
It is good to disagree, it gives us the opportunity to grow and learn how to see issues from all sides. The key is not to take it personally, and that is maybe the biggest obstacle we face. We think that if someone is not in agreement with us they surely must be against us. How boring would life be if we all agreed on everything?
So what I must learn to do is separate the person from the issue, and remind myself that it is ok for others to disagree with me-BUT, I ask those around me to also play by the rules and respect my position on issues.
What would summer be without cooking outside, or watermelon or cold salads or going barefoot (yes, in the grass but also across the hot asphalt!) or the smell of chlorine from the public pool or the sand in your bathing bottoms from spending a day at the beach or summer concert nights!!!!
Or how you can smell everything when riding your bike!
I love summer, I really do-hell I can find something to like about EVERY season, and yes there are some things I DON’T like about summer!
Like how SWEAT runs down my face and body even when I’m not moving!! How at the end of the day my clothes are dripping wet!
Or how some guys think it is ok to wear SPEEDOS! Guys if your not an Olympic swimmer than do us all a favor and don’t do the Speedo thing-pictures like that are hard, if damn near impossible to get out of ones head!!!
Or how frigging HOT my motorcycle seat gets when sitting in the sun! Or having to WAIT at a red light on my mototcycle!
Or when your riding at the end of the day and NO visor or sunglasses can keep the friggin’ sun out of your eyes!
Or having some NIMROD throw a cigarette out their car window!
Or finding the perfect spot at the evening Concert in the park only to realize that your sitting on the home of Fire Ants!!! OUCH!!
Or how some ladies forget what their feet look like in sandals-girls, that is why pumice stones were invented!
Or Too much Body hair on women-for all you Bigfoots out there-that is why we have RAZORS and WAX and LASERS and DEPILATORY CREAMS etc. (this goes for some men too!)
Or how some people just should not ever, never, ever, EVER wear daisy dukes! BBBRRRR!!! And this goes for guys too!! I am sure the Gay community will agree with me on this one! The 70’s are GONE guys, get with the times!
Or a BRAZILIAN WAX, don’t get me wrong I love the look and feel but the PAIN! For the love of all things sacred-THE PAIN!!!! I’m thankful it only needs to be done once and it lasts all summer long!
Or B.O. ! People!! if you live in a country with running water and soap, you should not smell like STEAMED ONIONS!!! ( unless your French, we all KNOW the deal with them! French whore bath-hint-hint!)!!
I hope you all enjoy your summer, just do the rest of us a favor and try to follow “The Rules” !!
SONJA J. GROGAN